Vulnerable. Exposed. Insecure.
You might experience it with your spouse, a co-worker, or maybe even a friend. Although the notorious naked dream is not actually reality, the “glass house” feeling is all too true in certain situations. It’s uncomfortable to experience and some might even say that it’s similar to how you feel in an unsafe situation.
So, how do you protect yourself when you feel exposed like this?
Honor Your Inner Voice
One of the most important things to do is to heed your own voice. Though, it’s not the voice escaping your lips.
The voice that needs your full attention in vulnerable moments is the voice inside of you – your intuition or an inkling, you might say.
We all have them.
For instance, your body and mind will instinctively make split-second decisions for you. It could be something as simple as changing bodily positions during a conversation or shifting your gaze elsewhere. These subtle indicators offer you a sense of strength and security.
Maybe you’re sitting and your co-worker is standing up. Before you know it, you’re standing, too. Or you might feel like putting on your blazer and not really know why. But you feel better with it on.
These little nudges are there to help you. While it probably doesn’t change the facts surrounding a given situation, you tend to feel less vulnerable in the meantime.
Take a Step Back From the Situation
The “glass house” feeling of vulnerability often appears when you are approached without warning. Put on the spot, per se.
It’s a familiar sales tactic, but not uncommon to witness in everyday interactions.
Maybe your spouse begins a conversation assuming you’re well aware of something, but in reality you’re clueless. To dive head first into this conversation would undoubtedly be getting in over your head. It could not only frustrate you both but also cause you to feel insecure.
To avoid feeling exposed, it’s better to simply back away from the situation. Take stock of what you know and your feelings surrounding the situation first.
This step back isn’t always mental. You can actually benefit from physically removing yourself from the situation for a moment and then returning after you feel prepared.
Practice Visualizing a Protective Sphere
As well as allowing yourself to take physical action, it’s important to address things in your mind and take a mental stand.
After all, the “glass house” feeling is still a feeling. Although it might seem that your jugular vein is exposed, your life is probably not actually being threatened.
Rather than drawing swords to ward off predators like our ancestors did, visualize yourself as being protected.
For instance, imagine a bubble or a sphere surrounding you. The space inside your bubble is your safety zone. Nothing harmful can penetrate your protective sphere.
Although the bubble is a simple visualization, it can have a profound impact on how you feel. Not only does this practice help to alleviate any feelings of exposure, but it can make you more self-aware. With increased self-awareness comes more self-confidence.
Everyone deserves to feel secure in their own life. You included. The path to empowerment is a step-by-step journey and not without its own set of challenges.
If you’d like to embrace your inner strengths in a more profound way so that you feel less vulnerable in situations then please contact me. Together we can take the first steps on your own journey. I look forward to helping you reach your personal goals.