How to Recognize the Cycle of Low Self-esteem and Depression


Is it often that one conversation or event puts you in a really bad mood?

If you’re like most people struggling with low self-esteem, you might feel stuck in a never-ending cycle.

One event can trigger negative thoughts about yourself which can then cause you to feel very depressed. This depression is hard to get out of, too. The worse you feel about yourself the more depressed you become. On the other hand, the more depressed you become the worse you feel about yourself. Read on to learn more about this cycle and how to recognize it.

The Correlation Between Low Self-esteem and Depression

A significant connection exists between depression and low self-esteem. In fact, low self-esteem is a major risk factor for depression.

It’s not that one undeniably precedes the other, but the two often go hand-in-hand.

Self-esteem, simply put, is how you feel about yourself. If you struggle with degrading or negative thoughts about yourself, then you may have a tendency to take events more personally and in a negative way.

Without realizing it, you might even seek validation for the way you feel about yourself. From the social feedback you receive, you might find yourself heavily embracing only the negative. The more you think about this negative feedback the worse you feel. This negative validation only fuels your struggle with low self-esteem.

This cruel cycle is stealthy, but it doesn’t have to remain a mystery.

The key to recognizing this cycle is to employ a deep sense of self-awareness.

Notice How You Feel

When an event occurs in your life, notice how you feel about it.

For instance, if your boss noticed something about your work that needed to be improved upon, how did you initially feel right after the conversation?

Did you think to yourself that you should have noticed the workflow problem first or that you never do anything right?

This type of negative self-talk quickly gives way to depression and anxiety.

By learning to recognize how you truly feel about events, you can learn to respond in a different way that will build your self-esteem while warding off depression.

Listen to Yourself

In social settings, it can be very easy to compare yourself with others.

Whether you make yourself out to be better or worse than the other person, this thought pattern is detrimental to your self-perception.

As you socialize, notice how you react to people. Are you inflating yourself to some while degrading yourself to others?

This type of social reaction might hard to spot at first. Take some time to listen to the words you say when you are socializing.

The more you listen to yourself the more you will identify the negative thinking patterns that invite low self-esteem and depression into your life.

Pay Mind to Your Outward Appearance

Confident people look a certain way. It’s not necessarily that they wear the best clothes or have the most excellent physique.

More than anything, it’s how they carry themselves and physically interact with others that sets them apart.

Take note of your outward appearance. A bad hair day or a stain on your clothes isn’t significant. Rather, notice your attitude in dressing yourself. Do you put effort into your attire each day?

Also, pay attention to how you hold yourself when you are interacting with people. Is your posture upright with chest out, shoulders back, and hands hanging neutral at your side? Or do you cross your arms, slump your shoulders, hang your head, or shuffle your feet as you walk?

By tweaking your personal appearance to one that portrays more confidence, you will help boost your self-esteem and your mood.

Recognizing subtle negative cycles in your life can be challenging. It’s not impossible to spot low self-esteem patterns leading to depression, but sometimes it requires assistance.

Together we can pinpoint patterns, put an end to degrading cycles, and increase your self-esteem. Please contact me for a personalized strategy for increasing self esteem.