You Tend to Save Face in Your Posts
While it’s only natural to put your best foot forward, this can come to back to bite you later on.
When you post on social media, you tend to post your best pictures or the best things that are happening in your life. The goal is to impress, inform, and produce a response from others.
Dealing with a mid-life crisis makes it more challenging to face your feelings. Social media makes matters worse in that it can drive you to choose denial and even dishonesty, rather than feel and share authentically.
Perhaps you post your best and pretend like everything’s fine. Yet, going the other way and posting every emotion is equally damaging.
The best option is to back away from social media altogether and process your emotions with honesty.
You Look Backwards Rather Than Forwards
Social media is full of nostalgia. There are pictures of days gone by and sentimental reminiscing about the past.
These nostalgic posts only feed into the negative side of a mid-life crisis. After all, a mid-life crisis occurs when you begin to feel unsatisfied with your life.
Your job, relationship, and material belongings may seem unable to fill a void inside of you. Recalling all the memories of the past and how “great” life was back then might exacerbate these negative feelings.
You See Only What Others Want You to See
As mentioned before, social media is where the best of the best gets displayed.
In short, people are primarily posting things that they want you to see. A social media account is not an accurate depiction of a person’s life.
This deceptive sort of highlight reel can really throw people off. Especially those dealing with a mid-life crisis. Even if it’s not real, you see what you don’t have and what someone else seemingly does. This feeds into the negative side of a mid-life crisis.
With feelings of doubt and regret possibly surfacing already, perceiving others more fortunate circumstances might be the last straw.
Social Media is a Stealthy Invitation to “Greener Pastures”
A mid-life crisis is often represented by red corvettes, extramarital affairs, and extreme lifestyle changes.
Social media plays a huge role in this type of behavior. The digital world provides you with an endless supply of “greener pastures.”
Whether it’s an attractive individual or a shiny car, it’s a sort of temptation to dive in head first to a new experience.
Though, social media doesn’t show you the whole picture or what goes on behind the scenes. It only shows you what you could have that you don’t have yet.
You might not even know you were missing something until it popped up on your feed. At that point, you had to have this one thing to satisfy the longing brought on by a mid-life crisis.
Scrolling Through Your Feed Makes You Feel Alone
There is no replacement for person-to-person contact. This type of interaction even activates a different part of your brain than what staring at a computer screen does.
When you’re dealing with a mid-life crisis you’re already bombarded with intense emotions. This by itself can make you feel cut off from the rest of the world. Almost like you’re out of place or you don’t know your place any longer.
Scrolling through your feed can produce emotions that expound upon the ones you’re already facing.
You see what you’re missing socially, per se.
Reality is probably that you’re not missing as much as you think, but the feeling of losing out is very real.
If you’re facing a mid-life crisis of your own, then please reach out to me. Together, we can navigate this time by moving forward to a better life.